Why Self Help May Be a Waste of Money
Why Self Help May Be a Waste of Money
By Gerry Fox
Do you ever wonder why some people, no matter how hard they try fail in just about any endeavour they attempt?
Is there a missing ‘key’ somewhere? That if turned could lead to greater success?
Yes - there is, that is the good news - and it all boils down to something not taught in schools and colleges, universities and establishments like them.
We are all run by the ’software’ in our heads, our attitudes, beliefs, reactions to events are all governed by our thoughts - i.e. what goes on in our minds. The only difference between successful people and unsuccessful people are the programs that they run in their heads, and the subsequent actions that these inspire.
Have you ever been taught the basics of ‘how’ we think? We need to have a simple ‘model’ on which to work.
Without this fundamental understanding there is a very real chance that having been taught a new skill - the application of this skill, to promote positive and lasting change in your life, will fail and you drift back into your old ways of doing things quite quickly.
Learn how our minds can either ignore, distort or generalise inputs, with perhaps devastating consequences. All this filtering, distortion and generalisation can go on at such a base level that you are not aware that it is happening at all. One of the key elements in manifesting positive and lasting change is to become aware that these processes are going and then learning how you can interject and use your conscious mind to either become aware of the thoughts in the first place, or replace negative distortions with positive distortions and to stop the process of generalisation in its tracks.
Understanding how our attitudes and beliefs combine with the various inputs and how this can then directly affect your emotional state - which directly affects the quality of any decisions. It is possible to directly affect the emotional state with for instance regular exercise, many people are amazed at just how good they start to feel after a couple of weeks of exercise. A simple brisk walk for half an hour 3 - 4 times a week will be enough to start a positive change. Meditation and Relaxation techniques can also be introduced to help with the processes.
The quality of any decisions you make reflects in the quality of life that you lead. If your emotional state affects the quality of the decisions you make - it makes sense to put yourself in the best emotional state as often as possible.
Having learnt how the mind works, you can then start building on this foundation with the any good self help courses out there. And the chances are that now the information in them will be put to good use to make lasting and positive change.
So the answer to the opening question in the title is - maybe - if the foundations that you are building on are a little shaky, then no matter how much knowledge you try to digest, you will not have the results that you deserve and are capable of. You first need to build the foundations properly.
You can do this!
Copyright © 2010 Gerry Fox.
This article summarizes the main points made in a free report available from http://www.gerryafox.com/pta/public_html/pta/index.html
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